Because it is God’s will.
This is perhaps the most important reason of all. God designed marriage, and no one knows it better than He does. As believers, our top priority should be to discern and obey God’s will in all things. This includes our choice of a mate. For some reason, whether it is due to lack of knowledge or lack of faith, many believers have difficulty trusting God with this area of their lives. A couple who is considering marriage needs to take plenty of time to pray together, seeking God’s will in the matter. Just because you are both believers doesn’t automatically mean that you are right for each other for marriage. Be patient. Trust God and honestly and humbly seek His will and wisdom. If He is calling you to marry, He wants to join you to someone with whom you can build a strong, godly home filled with love and grace— a home that exalts Jesus Christ as Lord and harmony in vision and purpose. If you seek His counsel, He will bring the right person into your life, and you will know it when He does. If God is calling you to marry, He wants to join you to someone with whom you can build a strong, godly home filled with love and grace—a home that exalts Jesus Christ as Lord.
To fulfill sexual needs and desires in a righteous way.
Sexual desire is God-given and, in its proper place, healthy and good. By itself, the desire for sex is a poor and shallow reason for getting married. In conjunction with other reasons, however, such as love and the desire for companionship, the desire for sexual fulfillment is a strong and natural motivation. Love that produces in a man and a woman the desire to commit themselves to a lifelong relationship also generates the desire to express that love sexually. Believers who are serious about their commitment to Christ will seek to fulfill their sexual needs and desires in a godly way. Marriage is the God-ordained vehicle for fulfilling God-given sexual desire. Paul’s words to the believers in Corinth provide wise and practical counsel on the matter: Now for the matters, you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.… Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:1-5, 8-9, emphasis added). Marriage is the God-ordained vehicle for fulfilling God-given sexual desire.
To work together to fulfill each other’s needs.
Marital love also stirs up in a husband and wife the desire to meet each other’s needs. This is a give-and-take process that requires much sensitivity on the part of both. Every person is born with ongoing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. There is the need for food, water, clothing, and shelter; the need for security and peace of mind; the need to be free from fear; the need for aesthetic enrichment; the need for peace with God and intimate fellowship with Him. Marriage is a tailor-made opportunity for a man and woman to work together to fulfill their legitimate needs. Together, and with steadfast trust in the Lord, they can meet any challenge and overcome any obstacle. “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Eccles. 4:12).
Enhancement of spiritual growth.
Because it comes from God, marriage is designed for believers: men and women who walk by faith and not by sight and live in a daily and growing personal love relationship with Jesus Christ. Both husband and wife together should continually encourage each other to grow in the Lord. They should worship together, pray together, read and discuss the Scriptures together, and hold each other accountable for their spiritual walk with Christ. Structurally, “the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church” (Eph. 5:23a). By his leadership and submission to Christ, the husband is to set the tone and direction for the spiritual growth of the family, but both husband and wife bear mutual responsibility for the spiritual health of their marriage. Any couple who is serious about building a godly marriage will make enhancing each other’s spiritual growth a very high priority.
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